The Foundation?

You can go on the street and ask however many people you want to ask what is the foundation of a successful, long lasting relationship... Im sure you'd get as many interpretations as a sunday school doing silent study of Bible scriptures. Im also sure you'd get a few that are pretty common like Honesty, Trust, Compromise, and Hard Work and thats because they are key.

Before a construction crew can even lay one brick or concrete slab, a survey of the land and soil samples must be taken to see if the land is suitable. In my opinion this is where "Honesty" comes in to play. Sure that land may look like a great place build that Beautiful home of your dreams but if there is unsuitable soil how is that foundation going to support what you build upon it?

Once the surveying and samples are sound it gives the construction team a sense of "Trust" in the land and building can proceed. This would be dates and the getting to know you time frame of relationship. A problem with too many relationships is they are too rushed. Before a sample and survey results even come back the construction managers are already at home depot picking up there cheap inexperienced day laborers. A quality build project takes time people! A poorly put together foundation can reap your now beautiful home expensive problems in the long run!

If everyone had it their way they would have the perfect home of their dreams, but lets face it folks reality is not perfect and neither are people. With a construction project budget is key and if the budget is limited compromise is an unwanted but need factor. In relationships your significant other is like the budget, it is what it is! Unfortunately their is no going over budget with a person so if that budget is something you can deal with your just going to have to compromise and deal with out some things of that "Dream Home" you had imagined. Never take on a budget you cant handle, you'll just be left with an unfinished lot sure to be vandalized.

"Hard Work," no one said building on that foundation would be easy! With a construction project there are going to mistakes, mishaps, and misjudgments, as project build continues these will happen and its going to take hard work to fix them. If your not willing to do that well don't even bother with surveying the land. Also if your one of the lucky few to complete that build, the hard work does not stop there. In 10 years time things like appliances, pipes, etc. begin to fail, its you and yours job to fix them. Notice I said you and YOURS emphasis on yours because it should not be only you pulling all the weight in the relationship. If you find your self making all the decisions on your own to help maintain that home you worked so hard to build then that my friend is a problem. Your problem is Dead Weight and we all know what happens to dead things, THEY GET BURIED (in the back yard) !!

So to wrap this up for you all living in your beautiful home or in the process of construction ask your self this, "Is my foundation sound?" If not you need to see is it worth the Repair or Demolition???

Why are you my friend again?

You ever have that friend that you keep around, but you just don't know exactly why you do? Well I have a friend like that since I have become one of the masses to join the line at the unemployment office we have become pretty close. Actually its kind of amazing how close we have become because he's not much of a talker but he's always there. We've shared many a emotional conversation too. You know my other friends always would ask "Watu why do you even entertain him? He's so negative." Yeah I listen to the advice but its just something about him. Not one to drop names normally but his name is "Defeat." I keep him around because makes me stronger.

The Future of Gay Dating

If you look at the history of personal computing, although change is the norm with technology there are also some constants. As technology has progressed hard ware has become more powerful, smaller, and faster. Over the years the personal computer has gone from large desktop to now small smart phones more powerful than yesterdays computer. The same applies to websites, if you've noticed we have gone from complicated social sites such as Black Planet (BGC Live.. cough cough) with its multiple pages to streamlined sites such as Face Book which can give you an information overload all on one page. Welcome to the new phase of social sites, smart phone only social sites that is. In 2009 a new company called Grindr jumped in to the application development and membership has jumped to 500,000 iphone users in a years time. Now instead of going and filling out long and tedious membership forms you cans simply put a few lines about you name, age, pic and your done. With GPS, Wifi, or cell phone tower location you can meet other Gay guys with in miles or even feet. Start a quick chat agree to meet up and the software will provide the actual location of your future friend (because it skews the actual location of you to protect you from possible threats of gay bashing) or one night stand. Unfortunately Grindr at the moment is only on the iphone but because of the overwhelming popularity a similar program has been created for the Android operating system (i.e. Nexus One, G1, Droid, HTC Hero, MotoBlur). Encountr recently released on the Android Market mirrors Grindr, the only drawback is that its new so the base has not grown as much! Search; Android Market: Encountr http://www.encountrapp.com/ Iphone App Store: Grindr http://www.Grindr.com/